I am always unsettled. Always. I have a great life. I have a marriage that is more honest than anyone's I've ever known and I don't think there's anything I could do or say that would end it, I have 4 very well adjusted, smart and confident daughters, my wife is supportive, gorgeous and smart. I've been running the same business for 15 years now, make a great living and have 180% job security. There should be no problems, I should be doing nothing but stopping and smelling the overabundance of roses that surround me....and yet, I am unsettled.
I am not good at letting well enough alone or letting sleeping dogs lie. I am the consummate squeaky wheel. I also don't forget anything, ever, especially problems. I am so antsy right now my skin is crawling.
In addition, I think I want to run away. Not from my family, with them, but still...far away. I know there's no way to escape my feeling of being unsettled, because I know it's inside me, but I'm still on the verge of running.
Hilariously I'm always too nervous and too pragmatic to ACTUALLY rock the boat so hard it falls off of the cliff...and yet I'm always wanting to do just that, so it's this perpetual state of uncertainty.
As of today I told my wife we're done talking to or helping my mom. She only hurts me and never helps me. I'm done.
Good for you for making that step. I took that step with my step-mother 3 years ago, and have not looked back. She was a cancer in my life, and the family was better off without her in it. I have told my girls that my decision does not mean that they cannot talk to her, but it is also their choice. They have all sided with me thus far.
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