Why your Dad refers to your Mom as "Mother" in front of You

People have a lot of "sayings" that excuse men for fucking around on their wives, "Boys will be boys", you know, shit like that. Watching my father as I was growing up, then watching my friends in our twenties and now with my adult male friends, I don't think men ever actually grow up.

I actually think that all of us, men and women, are just 'acting' like adults. We are all doing what we THINK an adult should do in any given situation, and eventually, that sort of pretending just becomes second nature to us, but it's really all bullshit. We learn when we're teens what a grown up should do and how they should act and we carry that over to our twenties, some of us while we're away at college, some of us when we start our young lives out in the world "alone". We act like adults and sooner or later we start drinking our own Kool-Aid and viola! We're "adults".

I think that with men, ESPECIALLY momma's boys, growing up is like 80% acting all the time and 20% actually being a mature adult. I think that with a lot of men, they grew up with their mom's taking care of their every need, their dad's being their heroes and went outside to the house to have fun with their pals and to date and as teens, get laid. I think that as a boy becomes a man, either by moving out of their parents house on their own or moving away to college, they try their hardest to emulate their dad or male role model and be "a grown up", but that emulation can only go so far. Their mom probably still takes care of shit for them, and they're still partying with friends.

Once a man finds a woman, gets married, maybe has kids and the mundane routine of life really gets into gear, eventually, men fall back into that routine they were in when they were teens, except now they have "work" in the mix too. They now have their wife taking care of their every need, they may still have their dad as a hero (or some replace dad with a sports figure or musician) and they start having to go outside of the house to have fun and with some, to get laid. 

I think that so many men can so easily cheat on their wives because they've subconsciously replaced their family of their childhood with their adult nuclear family. It's a familiar and safe scenario and it doesn't "feel" wrong to them on the subconscious level. They can completely reconcile loving their wife yet getting a blowie from a coworker. I realize that as an "adult" men are supposed to be able to control themselves and NOT do that even if they think about it, they're supposed to suppress those urges and think of how them getting head would devastate their wives, I get that, I'm just saying, I think I understand why it happens so frequently (aside from the fact that blowjobs feel awesome just in general, which is a good reason too).  

I know that some marriages are bad. I know that some men are ASSHOLES. I'm not saying my theory here is an excuse, I'm saying my theory adds to the understanding of why men cheat. Also, getting a blowjob is really awesome and sometimes your wife's just not up for it, so really, you're helping her in the long run.